that you wont learn from a pickup artist…
Do you ever feel nervous and paralyzed with fear when you see a woman you want to talk to, but by the time you work up your courage, shes gone…?
Do you ever feel pissed at yourself for not knowing how it works with women? And then you get more and more frustrated and angry when you get more of the results you expect?
Do you ever feel embarrassed or ashamed of your sexual desires of women? And you fear what a woman would say if she knew about what you wanted from her?
Do you ever feel like you get way up in your head when youre around a woman you find attractive and desirable? And then your mouth turns to mush?
Do you ever feel like theres some special training on understanding women that you missed out on as a kid that you should have had? And now youre playing catch-up, but you feel completely lost?
Would you like to meet one special woman to sleep with, create a relationship with, or just connect on an intense level, but youre afraid she either doesnt exist, or she just wouldnt be interested in you?
Well, I can tell you from years of experience that youre not alone, and youre not as lost as you might feel.
When you feel like youre not as good as other guys are with women, it hits you right in the middle of who you are as a man.
A few years back, I had what you might call a crisis.
Im not going to bore you with all the details, but lets just say that my dating life was really empty. I went for about a year without a girlfriend of any kind. I was meeting the occasional girl, but I wasnt able to get anything off the ground. (I think they call this failure to launch.)
I went out all the time and hung out with my other guy friends who had really attractive girlfriends, butI was the pitiful lonely guy of the groupthat would hardly ever get a phone number or date.
And if I did get a date, it always ended up as friends at the end, because I was such a Nice Guy.
But Id also look at my guy friends who had cool girlfriends and think, Hes not all that great looking, or all that smart.
So How In The World Were These Other GuysDoing It?
I started to get really frustrated, and then I even got angry with women over it. I felt myselfblaming themfor my situation, even though I knew they werent the problem. It was very tempting to give up and just write women off completely.
If there were things other guys were doing that could get women interested in them, I could figure out what that was, and then learn it and use it myself. I had been learning songs on guitar for years, just by getting the sheet music and copying the notes, so why would this be any different?
Lesson 1: Attraction is Not Something Youre Taught.
First, its not the same as just learning the notes on sheet music. Id ask guys what they were doing to get women interested, and most of them couldnt explain it. Just be confident, one guy said. Act like you dont care, another one told me.
The truth is that once you do figure out the method theyre using (and I eventually did), its simple. You just need to learn from someone that knows how to explain it right.
You need someone whos been through all the same things you have.
Next, I learned that as much as Id wanted to MAKE women interested in me, it doesnt work that way. I never talked a woman into liking me.
On the other hand, when I learned the right steps to build attractionnaturally, I didnt have to do all that needy and insecure stuff I used to – which never worked, anyway.
But the funny thing about attraction is that it does work bypredictable laws.
Learn the laws, and you understand the hidden code…
And the other cool thing is that when you know how this emotional code works, youll be able to repeat your successes. Over and over and over, as much as you want.
Here are a couple tips I learned along the way that will help you…
FAST SUCCESS TIP1: Tease to Please
I call this technique Tease to Please, and it works because itshort-circuits a womans usual defense mechanismsagainst meeting strange men. You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defensive shields against meeting new men or letting them into her life.
When a guy approaches her, foranyreason,the woman assumes youre picking up on her.Its what shes gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine they use of being a little stand-offish to you until you canbust past this barrier.
Instead of complimenting a woman when you first meet her, take the opportunity to gently tease her.
Dont make it cruel, but tease like you would on the playground as a kid: Youre not bad looking … you dont have cooties, do you? I dont want to catch anything from you.
By using theDating Dynamicsmethods, you willflip her Trust switchin her head. You see, she starts out needing to find a reason to be interested and trust YOU – or she quickly categorizes you as a friend.
Translation: Friend = non-lover, a man she wont sleep with.
If you just start talking to her neutrally, shes wondering, Is he safe? Is he normal? For all she knows, youre just another dweeb looking to bore her with old Playboy party jokes.
Now, by teasing her first, all of a sudden she feels (from your words and actions) that you might be more challenging. Youredifferent- i.e.,interesting to her.Maybe youre not just another guy out there looking to get laid tonight.
Just find one thing about her that you can tease her about as an introduction. Dont make it cruel, but make it clear that youre not intimidated by her beauty. Make it playful andfun. If youre reading her body language well enough, youll be able to take this as far as you want.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Most guys will be afraid of making a woman mad, and willfearusing this tactic, even though it makes complete sense to women and it will work like crazy on them.
If you play it her way, youre going to have to spend weeks and weeks, dates and more dates,money and more money, on a woman just to get her to open up and believe youre a good guy.
The best way is to learn how to shortcut past this and get women attracted right away. No more wasting time or energy on women that arent what you want.
Do you ever feel like attraction between you and a woman is like some kind of magic trick…?
And that its something cool that you can see other guys do, but youll never really get it?
Some guys out there will tell you that you need to get your inner game of confidence and self-esteem all taken care of before you can meet women and get more dates.
This is popular advice from people who dont understand how to train guys properly.
The most important thing for you to do is to get what I call Fast Success. Im not talking about the kind that you were warned about by your Jedi grandfather, who told you to beware of the easy path.
Fast Success is getting you results as quickly as possible soyou dont quit too soon!
So your first step is to learn the basic skills so you can get those quick victories and teach your unconscious mind thatyou can do this.
Let me give you an example of something quick and easy that you can use the next time youre out talking to a woman…
FAST SUCCESS TIP2: Conversation Jump-Start
Have you ever been talking to a woman for a few minutes, and as the energy of the conversation starts to dip a little (right about where you are running out of things to say)she just looks back to her friends and turns her back to you?
I call this the back turn, and its one of those experiences guys hate more than anything. You get that sick feeling of not just being ignored, butde-valuedas well. It feels like a punch in the stomach.
Even though she didnt actually do it or say it out loud, you feel like she just laughed and called you a loser.
Let me give you the best strategy you can use when you sense that this situation is coming up and you might lose her…
Just look at the girl and ask her to tell you how everyone in her group knows each other. You can say this:
Hey, before you run out of cool things to talk about, tell me… How do you all know each other?
If you listen closely, what she says will give you at least ten new subjects that you can then talk with her and her friends about – their jobs, their history, all the juicy stuff you can use for a good conversation.
Plus, by getting her friends back in on the conversation, you avoid that creepy guy hitting on their friend situation. You may know this one, too, where youre talking with a woman, and suddenly one of her friends drags her away to go talk with some other friend.
What really happened there was that the girl you were talking to used her chick code (those looks women share that seem telepathic) to say,I need to find a new conversation…
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