While our male counterparts can confuse the heck out of us Dignity Daters, sometimes they can be the best when it comes to dishing out dating advice. Now that you have access to the Dating with Dignitys Mens Advice Column (Starting with these seven dating tips for women from men!), youll never be confused again.

1. Do your own thing.Dont let a man become the center of your universe. If you make a man your whole life, hes going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered! Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic you who has her own interests and passions who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing. Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of interdependence.  Interdependence requires that youre both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends. Dont lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc.

2. Dont overindulge on a date.While you might think it cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. Let him get to know you as you are. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. Also, order a real dinner. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldnt order any food because she wasnt hungry. But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it! Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish).

3. Some men ARE afraid of commitment(so they might need a little more time than you to decide if youre the one). Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that youre ready for a relationship hell likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if youre ready for a relationship with anyone. Hes going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend. So even though its great to let a new guy know where you are in your life or about your dating goals, take the time to get to know him before you decide. (We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four). As a result, hell feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Dont rush the getting-to-know-each-other part. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to data date and collect the information you need to determine if hes boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.

4. We always want you to invite us in after a first date, but we secretly hope youll say no.If you want to show a man that youre girlfriend material, dont hook up with him on the first date. It will probably make him wonder if you would do the very same thing with every other Tom, Dick and Harry. This is also a good way to feel out whether hes looking for some casual fun or something a little more serious. Often we believe that a man will expect us to get physical from the get-go and that if we dont, men will lose interest if it doesnt happen right away. In fact, its actually the opposite. Its not a deal breaker every time, but it does make the getting to know you part more complicated.

5. Dont call us all the time. Let us call you.If youre consistently calling, texting, emailing, and doing all the asking out, a man wont have to lift a finger. Let the communication be balanced. This is not to say that you cant ever reach out to a man youre dating, but let him do the asking outat least in the early stages. If youre both interested in each other, there will be a natural balance in the amount of communication. If you feel like you may be guilty of over-calling, take a break and see if he comes back and puts in the effort. If so, wonderful. And if not? Move on, sister! You deserve someone who wants to reach out to you, call you, and ask you out.

6. Dont assume you are exclusive.As scary as it may seem to talk to your man about not seeing other people, its even scarier to just assume he isnt seeing other people. Words are helpful, and you should use them sometimes. So he tells you he wants to introduce you to his sister? Awesome! Still doesnt mean youre exclusive. Try something like, You know, Id really like not to see other people. How do you feel about that? If he gives you an answer you arent looking for, buh-bye. And if he gives you a yes, fantastic! Go for it!

7. Men arent all the same, so give them a chance!As easy as it would be to base every opinion you have on an experience you had with a guy or listen to your best guy friends advice, not all men are the same. So even though these dating tips from men can be very helpful, men are ultimately individuals. Let them show up and show you how much theyre interested! Men are often more helpful than not, right? So if these seven dating tips for women from men werent enough for you, check back for more soon.

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I agree most of what is in here especially if the woman gives it up on the first date but in the beginning of the Courtship the woman she contact the man 70-80 percent of the time so he can stay mysterious. If he calls her to much she will bolt! The mans job in the beginning is to call just once a week and set dates till the woman falls in love! And on that note I will have a Martini shaken not sturred!

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Love the article. Indeed very helpful and it cleared out my questions about why the guy Im dating went away.

My mistake was doing the deed on the first date for having to really like the guy which happens not very often.

Dont get me wrong, weve been communicating for a month before we had the first date. Big mistake, now he seems less interested with me unlike before.

My question is, how can I bring back that level of interest that he first had with me before we do it? Is it still possible at this time?

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I agree with your advice. These were the exact mistakes I did in all my previous relationships which of course was a total disaster. Let me tell you all my story. I was in my mid 30s, my life was a disaster with many failed relationships in the past. There was always this empty void which could only be filled by a relationship and I only realized this later in my life. Just when I had given up all hopes I came across this dating site ( I was little skeptical about dating sites long story short I found a perfect guy and next month 20th is our wedding day. Its been three years now and Ive cherished every minute of my life with him 🙂

Hi I am new to this dating thing, we were used to doing it the old fashion way before the Internet was around. Anyway cut a long story short, started chatting to this guy on Tinder,we are both in music so we understand the unsociable hours and the pressure that comes with it. Anyway basically has been texting everyday, and get on really really well have a great sense of humour and banter between us that other people who are not working in music would not necessarily understand?

We went out for a meal about 3 weeks ago, and decided that we would like to see each other again. The work commitments do get in the way as basically he has to travel away and I also work with my music projects as well ( all checked out and very genuine). However the last couple of days he has gone unusually quiet? But the banter carried on just before this theres nothing and changed there whatsoever but I am starting to feel a bit of a distancing situation occurring?

May I just add that there has been no intimacy whatsoever, but we seemed really into each other. I dont want to go over the top and question him as to why he has become a little bit quieter, but at the same point I need to understand why? He has always said to me that when he is back from work he will adk me out again or over his way for a meal?

This situation is quite bizarre because literally we have not stopped talking to each other. he lets me know as soon as he has landed in another country for work, how the job is going, sends me pictures and updates all the time, but the last couple of days have been different from his side not mine I dont mind if hes changed his mind or he has met somebody else, but I think he should at least have the courage to tell me and not just blank me do you think I should confront it and just ask him why? We are both mature and not in our twenties or thirties so really not into all this game playing and hookups rubbish. should I just ask him out right if there is a problem?

Great advice as per the norm, though I do have a question about the date-date thing and long distance relationships. I have been talking with a man who recently immigrated to New York City from Shanghai,China. We started talking casually in February and have recently began talking on more frequently once he was able to find and apartment and settle down (we met on an online dating site). He has even told me that he would move to the city where I was living if we ultimately decided that we wanted to be together. He also said that him and buddy are coming out to Utah on a road trip together in October and that he would love to meet me. My question is, if we went on a date in October when he comes to Utah, is that considered the first date? If not, what constitutes a first date in a long distance relationship?

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Great your post on dating by only women, but why?

In my opinion she and he should be able to understand each other. Most people makes mistakes on this. I know few people who had broke up with their partner due to silly reasons. Another big mistake women tend to make is to show ego when talking with their friends. I had this experience at the time of my first date and totally pissed off about her. I still remember one of my friend who had dated with a girl from a matchmaking program in Toronto. They had married and lived together for about 6 months. But after that they had separated from each other due to simple issues.

I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first real date. About a month later he has been acting very weird. I dont understand why he is acting like this. All I know he need to get in touch with me and let me know something. I am 10 years younger than this guy. However you need to be getting ready to find someone and marry. At the end of the day you are the one thats getting old fast not me. I dont know what else you want me to do. I am letting you know if you want me come get me. You know were I live. I just feel like you been using me and I am not going to put up with this no more. Be a man. Tell me what you need from me as a woman. I am a very beautiful young lady . You should not be treating me like this. All those other guys they mean nothing to me I want you.

I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first date. And about a month later hes been acting very weird. I would text him because I dont want him to think Im running him down. With I am not. All I want to know if he want to still be friends or not. Its making me very upset about this situation. I just feel like he is using me. I am trying to be nice about to this guy knowing what all he did to me. We both are grown and I just feel like he need to know what he is doing is wrong. Not talking to me like he suppose to. Just lies. At the end of the day I still have to face this guy because his cousin is married to my aunt. I am 10 years younger than you. If you want to be more than friends let me know. I cant do everything. Im telling you what I want so hear me out please. At first you seemed like a very nice guy but now I cant tell. I am falling for you. I really want this to work. You can ask me out I am ready now. I just need you to trust me.

I could see there might be a set of double standards dating is certainly more complicated than it used to be.How men show loveButI would still rather a guy was honest.

I am a man, one of the biggest mistakes women make with dating is that

1. they show too much interest and start telling the guy what they want and how other guys are not good, etc.. We do not need to know your life story. Keep some mystery, and remain confident and comfortable in your skin

2. They invite the man into their house after 1-2 dates. Ladies, if a man is worth your time, he would wait 6 more dates. This behavior shows that you have no control over your Sexual urges and we will treat you like a piece of meat with no emotions and dump you easily

3. Cold, not Thoughtful, cheap. As much as we are being a gentleman when we invite our dates for dinner, lunch, etc.. Be expect the ladies to be a little thoughtful and invite us somewhere, it really makes the guy appreciate you more. Please dont be cheap! Worst habit ever.

4. You are stubborn / cold. Please cheer up a little, your bf hates to see you in bad, depressed mood all the time. And eventually he will start to look at other women

I hope my tips would be helpful to all of you beautiful ladies out there.

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Great advice. Ive been on 2 dates with a great guy. He has kind of pulled away. We are both on a dating website. I saw him on it the next day after our date and he immediately clicked off. I think he saw that I was on there. I sent him an email online and said that it was okay for us both to still be online. That we are both adults. I explained that I felt it was okay for people to date others until a talk about being exclusive comes up. I explained that guys do it all the time. I closed the email with a comment saying, not to feel uncomfortable seeing me on there that it was no big deal. I tried to make the email very casual.

I want him to want to pursue me, so thats why I said that. I hope I didnt ruin things by saying this. He did say in one text to me that he was glad I wasnt a serial dater. Im not, but enjoy talking to men on the website because it gives me confidence in myself. Having guys contact me until someone wants to be exclusive helps me to feel attractive and wanted. I dont know. Im so confused.

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Great dating tips! I somehow realized that there are a lot of things that I do not know about men. Also, guys should not wait for girls to talk. Being a guy, you have to take initiative first.

Great advice. Not only is it well written, it sums things up without being judgmental. Since I am an after the fact internet dating advice site checker, I always felt that I was in troublethat I was being chastised for not playing by the rules

My first try at internet dating sites, a year into a legal separation after a difficult 13 year marriage, helped me learn a lot:

If youre divorcing, wait until the last status review court date (signatures on the divorce papers!! finally!!) before you start dating. No guy wants to help you through a divorce. Thats for your best friends (or even long term guy friend). Transitional relationship. Enough said.

Avoid texting early on. At all costs. Youre suddenly looking at a huuggge conversation with so many little things to obsess over!! I even decided he must have not paid his bill. Early on, he responded immediately. When the response time became longer, or the tone of the messages changed, when they were left open (LOL for instance), or only two words (you know the list, I know you do). I couldnt decide if I should continue being clever or confuse him. There was also a ton of (quite well written) mutual sexting. Oh. Who might he be showing these to? Uh oh.

Staying with email has given me confidence. This new guy wants my number, fifth email inI said why rush things? Im not in a hurry, are you?

His response? I like your style

I think women should understand tip 1. Nothing is sexier and more attractive than a woman who is confident and has her OWN life. She is busy with her own dreams and goals and doesnt need but WANT a man to make her life complete.

Men want women that can add something to their lives. She must bring her own value and worth to the table. Nothing is more of a turn off than a woman that has nothing going for her. He wants a woman not a girl.

I like 7 the most. Men are all different individuals. And so are women. I believe that getting to know the person right in front of you will be far more valuable than all the gender-specific advice we may get.

Marni, 100% right! Independence is very attractive.. Ive always felt that. Be strong in yourself and you become attract to others..

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Nas Hmm.. it sounds to me that six weeks is more than enough time for him to ask you on a proper date. I obviously dont have a ton of information here, but from what youve told me, it sounds like hes not making seeing you a priority. Remember, if a man wants to see you, he will MAKE time. 🙂

So, my question is how long should you wait for them to show up? Ive decided to take a step back today after texting with a guy for 6 weeks now (getting to know you stage) & meeting up twice (hes got an extremely demanding job). So how long do I wait for him to text/call before I give up on him? And whats the standard time a guy takes before he asks you on a proper date? 🙂

Dhruv thanks for giving us the male POV!

Also, guys should stop doing what their girlfriend is saying to them.. In future, she will be the one who dominate you every single time!

Also, guys should not wait for her to talk Being a guy, you have to take initiative first.. 🙂

Yeah.. awesomedating tips for womenReading a lot of blogs and tips like these, I somehow realize that there are a lot of things that we do not know about men. And maybe, same as men dont know all things about us. Anyhow, thanks for this advice.

One other piece of advice from a male. Not be a jerk. Women who want to be tough can act like jerks even if they are normally good people. Speak freely. Last thing a guy wants to do is have to decipher girl-code when he is in the middle of a first date (where he is paying, driving, opening doors, trying not to see to rough and .)

Mark Glad youre liking the tips!

Great article! Can you please read this to Los Angeles while flying over the city with a PA system? Thanks ahead of time.

If you have to work to make time for your new g/f or b/f after about a couple weeks of rearranging your life you are on the road to nowhere as it will become an effort later. Me being 50 I wont settle for the chase if it isnt mutual its one sided .you not only have to be emotionally ready but time ready as well to make anything work. You. Get out what you put in and if you cant put in your time its toast

Tory: SUCH a great question. I agree its all fun and games in the beginning when youre just getting to know each other, but once you start to fall in love it can feel like you dont want to do anything except be with him! Unfortunately, thats when men start to lose interest, because you stop being the vibrant, independent and fun woman he first met. The key is to remain aware that its your pattern to let go of your life once you get into a relationship. When you feel yourself letting your independence slip, remind yourself how it important it is to your happiness and your relationship that you continue to explore your interests, hobbies and friends outside of the relationship. Good luck. 🙂

Its true its so important to keep your friends, passions, interests, travel plans and nurture them while dating a guy to keep confident and loving yourself and not make him the center of your world. But its easier said than done I find. I find it works perfectly well at the beginning when you dont know each other that well. Hes not in your life yet so youre used to your routine and have some fun dates to looks forward to in between. But as soon as feelings are evolving, you start thinking about him more often, look forward to seeing him again, he treats you right, you see each other on a regular basis and it hits you and its hard to focus on something else that gives you the same level of excitement and fun! its true that once he becomes too important, things start to fall aparthe pulls away. So how do you keep your life and independence once emotions are involved? Why does it happen that what we had before him, start to have less of an importance and we drop our bounderies?

Hey, Lisa! How are they not making an effort? Can you elaborate on that?

Anna: Glad you enjoyed the post. 🙂 Keep reading and keep commenting!

Ive been doing online dating. I seem to find it hard to take guys seriously. Ive been widowed for 4 years and have had 2 relationships. Im ready to settle down with someone but men dont seem to put an effort in to getting to know me.

I agree on all points you are raising here. These days most of the youth are involving in online dating rather than serious relationship. Great post

Very nice advice, Kathy. Keep commenting! Big hugs, Marni

Great advice! Its so important to be your own person and not lose your identity in a relationship. If couples do everything together then there is nothing to talk about at the end of the day. You will be more attractive and interesting if you have your own interests outside of the relationship.

Great Tips! I like your closing line of: Let them show up and show you how much theyre interested!

That is very, very true! Always keep your life and friends outside of the relationship!! BIG hugs, Marni

The first is the most important one. So many women lose themselves when they started dating. This is a mistake, women who get hurt most from a breakup are like this. When the guy is the center of your universe, you feel like you lose everything when the relationship goes down.

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